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by Casey Jourdan

I’m about to turn 30 years old. At one level I believe it’s just another birthday, but than there is this nagging little voice in the back of my brain that keeps yelling at me that I should be freaking out. I’ve always thought by 30 I would have kids and be a “grown up.” Yet I feel like I am just coming into myself. I found a sport I love and I’ve just launched my own business.

I got married 8 months ago, and all the talk now is when are we having kids… I find myself at what feels like a crossroads. I am coming into my own as an athlete and a coach and I want nothing to get in the way of that. But I see my friends’ with their baby bumps and newborns and I want to devote every ounce of myself to having and raising kids.

There in lies the problem: I’ve been looking at it as a crossroads. I have to pick one or the other. Tonight it dawned on me that isn’t true. I can have both. I will have to be smart about it. But right now I am focused on getting strong. I want a 200lb back squat. A bodyweight snatch would be a dream come true. I’m going to continue to compete in olympic weightlifting and plan on taking a stab at my first Crossfit competition as well. So for now 5 days a week I lift big, and metcon fast.

I feel like women are lead to believe they have to pick one path in life: kids or ourselves. We don’t have to pick. Turning 30 and having kids doesn’t mean I’m too old for the gym or that I can’t lift any more. It’s just the beginning for me! I will lift and compete until my husband and I are blessed with a baby, then I will give my body and baby the attention they need. But I can, and will, come back to the gym. I will be a strong mom, and a role model of health for our children.

No matter our age, or the age of our kids, we don’t have to pick. We can be strong women. We can be athletes. And we can be devoted, loving mamas.

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