Women’s Only: “I Don’t Want to Look Like Her”

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by JULIA AVERY

Women's Only: "I Don't Want to Look Like Her"
It has been brought to my attention lately that there are several misconceptions surrounding the topic of girls and looking “muscular.” Here are a few of the statements that have crossed my radar, either directly or indirectly:

You don’t need to get any more muscular.

I don’t want to train with her because her legs are too big and I don’t want to look like her.

I’m scared of getting bulky.

I’ve gained too much muscle. I should go back to only doing cardio.

The list goes on.

I have a few thoughts…

1. Not everyone works out purely for aesthetics.

[M]y workouts and my diet align with my goals and for anyone to tell me to stop getting more muscular just makes me want to get stronger.
It is often assumed that everyone is working out for “toned” arms and a six pack. But the truth is that everyone has different goals. Some people want to be faster. Some want to get stronger. Some want to improve in a sport. Some want to prevent illness. Some want to socialize. Some want to sweat. Some want to fit into their jeans from 10 years ago. Whatever the case may be, everyone has different goals and motivations for working out.

My goal right now is to become a better CrossFit athlete. This involves getting stronger, faster and working on my Olympic lifts and gymnastics skills. Is it going to give me the body I want? Maybe. Maybe not. I’ve seen a lot of changes in my body over the past year but that has not been my main focus, simply a result of the way that I train. If I wanted smaller traps and leaner legs, I might train differently. I might eat differently too. But my workouts and my diet align with my goals and for anyone to tell me to stop getting more muscular just makes me want to get stronger.

2. I would never walk up to you and tell you not to get any fatter.

I would never walk up to you and tell you not to get any fatter.
I might think it in my head, but it wouldn’t be an appropriate thing to say out loud. So why is it ok to tell someone not to get any more muscular? It comes off as insulting and is just as offensive. Think before you speak!

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